“Hardness of Heart”

A hard object is stiff and unpliable.  Of course there are great needs for many things that must be solid for their use.  The human heart however, is not one of them.  We all know someone that (in our opinion) is “hard hearted.”  This type person may be defined as having no flexibility on certain issues being discussed.  More so, they seem insensitive to the needs of others and are unforgiving if they have been wronged by someone.


It’s safe to safe that all of us have been taken advantage of by another person.  They may have spread gossip in an attempt to hurt our reputation, said things to destroy our self-confidence, or actually did something that caused a great amount of pain.  And, adding insult to injury, had no regrets for doing so.


People hurt people.  And “hurt people” invariably “hurt other people!”  Some individuals are calloused and just plain HARD and MEAN.  They may have been taken advantage of and pushed around by someone for years.  Therefore they think everyone is out to get them so they are very apprehensive and often keep people at a distance.  Their trust in people is at a low level or even non-existent. 


We can’t control what others do, but we are responsible for our own actions.  You may have been hurt years ago, but the pain is just as severe today as when it happened.  Your heart has become hard as a result of that action.  I’m really sorry about that.  I don’t want you to live your life separating yourself from others.  Before this email is sent I will be praying for anyone who receives it that lacks joy and happiness because of something they endured at the hands of someone else. The truth is, each of us have most likely had our share of hurting someone else – either intentionally or non-intentional.  But to them, the pain was (and perhaps) still real.


The question today is, “Do you have a hard/insensitive/unforgiving/non-flexible heart?” If you do, don’t let it remain that way.  To do so could mean you’ll always be living with your guard up.  You will have a defense mechanism that wards off anyone wanting to be a friend desiring to get close to you.  Your hard heart can be softened – actually it can be replaced according to Ezekiel 36:26, “And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you.  And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.”  Don’t let the past dictate your future.  I know you don’t want to live this way – today is the day to truly seek God’s help as you surrender the hurt you are harboring totally and completely to Him.


Pastor Carnes